“The older my kids get, the more I realize how little control I have over them. My slipping sense of control produces so much anxiety in my life so I end up grasping for even more control. I don’t know what else to do but I’m afraid to surrender. Really afraid.”
That was a very real and honest fear shared with me recently by another mom who is watching her eldest child navigate his teen years, and is worried sick about his choices and the outcomes.
As I wrote about my own struggle with “controlling my kids” in Mom Set Free, I often wondered if surrender came easier to other moms. I wondered if I was mostly alone in my struggle to unclench my fists that were trying to control outcomes and parent more open-handed to God’s plans. But based on an Instagram comment feed I scrolled through just last week, I know I am not alone. In fact, control seems to be something most moms struggle with.